DATE NIGHT - Compliments and Celebrations
Here's your challenge for this week:
Give at least one genuine, heartfelt praise to your spouse each day for the entire week. Just one! If you’re able to extend the exercise one more day…then another…until it becomes a habit.
Catch your partner doing something right!
Even making just a small and gentle change in the trajectory of your marriage, can have a dramatic effect over time. The catch is you have to start…and keep going.
Here is a big tip: Instead of focusing on what is missing, or lacking, focus on strengths or positive attributes – things they do right. Search for things to praise.
Say thank you for trivial things: “Thank you for doing the dishes.”
And do it often: “Thank you.” “I’m proud of you.” “I really admire you!” “I respect your opinion.”
Ok? So express appreciation. It’s not very complicated. It’s easy to do. Easy not to do.
What we do every day matters much more than what we do once in a while.
Your DATE NIGHT - Celebrate the Differences
Agree on a time you can both meet when you won’t get distracted by children, or work, or anything else. You might choose to lie on your bed, go for a walk, or a drive, or visit a cafe.
Take it in turns to speak, and to listen. Listen with open hearts. Try not to interrupt, or judge, or criticise. Listen with the other person in mind, seeking not necessarily to agree, but to understand where they’re coming from. Remember, you have permission to have fun too!